How Belief is Our Most Powerful Tool

We humans have an incredibly diverse array of beliefs. Many beliefs come from upbringing, language, culture, social class, family of origin, region of origin, education, friend group, and so on and on. Some people firmly believe in a higher power, and some firmly believe there isn’t one. Some people believe that once you die, that’s it, but some people believe your spirit lives on, whether on this earth or in another world altogether. Some people believe there are eternal consequences to our actions and some people believe there is no debt to pay on a life they didn’t choose in the first place. Today, we have access to all of it with a lit-up wi-fi signal. No wonder it can be hard to know what to believe!

What is it that’s True?

I asked this question six years ago, having no idea that it would lead me to a completely new path in my life’s journey. I had to be sure that what I believed was true. And not just true to me, but universally, undoubtedly, True with a capital “T.” True in the sense that all humans, no matter their beliefs or backgrounds, would agree with me that it was True. No pressure, right? However, I was tired of constantly being suspicious of deceiving myself just to make myself feel better about who I was and what I could do on this earth. I remember asking myself, 

“Why do I feel so joyless and hopeless if I believe in a loving God? What’s the point of believing in God if this is what life feels like?” 

I struggled to get past this question. Everything I’d been taught about God growing up in Christian services, classes, and groups taught that if I believed in Him–meaning if I relied upon Him to provide the need of my sinful soul to be saved–then my life would not only be bearable but full of joy and hope. I felt nothing of the sort; something was off, and these beliefs just didn’t align anymore with my experience. I felt forced to conclude that not only didn’t I believe in God after all, but that God was never there to begin with.  

After all, these soul-level questions seemed irrelevant and plain unanswerable in work settings, university settings, and intellectual conversation. What did I really need them for if they weren’t helping me? The reality is that my beliefs about God and the human soul colored every decision I made. The relevance of what I believed was just as important as it always has been for anyone else since the beginning of humanity; that hasn’t changed. Wrong or untrue beliefs still have the potential to bring ruin upon our spirits and our hearts, which I know first hand.  

Before I continue, I want to clarify that belief and free will are two different things. Beliefs are assumptions about how the world works, how humans work, how God works. Free will on the other hand is our ability to make choices independent from the control of anyone or anything else. There are plenty of groups in existence today that rely on taking away the free will of their members in the name of “higher,” or “more important” beliefs and ideals. By planting a belief in someone’s mind, they can turn a person to their will, if the person is willing. I plan to explore this extensively in a future post, but for now, know that these groups exist, and you mustn’t give up your gift of free will to anyone. Ever. 

Belief is the driver of the intentional decisions we make (we can also make decisions unintentionally or passively). Belief is the most powerful thing we have as human beings for this and many other reasons; here are a few I’d like to share. 

Belief can’t be bought or sold.

The most important things in life can’t be bought or sold, and belief is one of those things, among love, forgiveness, grace, joy, and peace. You could have all the money in the world and you still couldn’t buy more. Belief is a gift. It’s something that each individual soul has the ability to do, simply by being born. It is part of being human to believe. It gives us a framework to live by, and motivation to keep going. The earth is round (it is, by the way), and the sun will rise tomorrow (probably). We also can’t fake our belief. Each accepted belief demands our complete authenticity and loyalty. We either believe or we don’t and that’s okay. But, we can always find ways to work on our belief or lack thereof. We can challenge our beliefs, we can bolster them, and we can choose what we put our belief in. 

Belief dictates the direction of your life.

What we believe influences the choices we make. If you believe the earth is flat, you’d balk at the idea of boarding an ocean liner for fear of falling off the edge and into outer space (okay, okay, I’m done with that analogy now). The choices we make day-to-day determine what direction our lives will take. For a stretch of time in my journey, I let go of all the beliefs I possibly could to figure out what is True, including the belief that there are eternal consequences to my actions. While I didn’t do anything criminal or mean-spirited in that time, I let go of the belief that there was purpose or any greater meaning to my life than the here-and-now of it. That made the direction of my life lack meaning too. Turns out it was just another lie I was believing–the very thing I was trying to avoid! It’s easy to overlook the huge amount of influence our beliefs have over our lives. A major reason we need them is to free up our minds to focus on details, to be able to assume certain truths in order to move further into a topic or activity and not get perpetually stuck in a state of inaction. Having assumptions gives us the ability to forget about the big questions that can give us a headache. But I would challenge you to examine your assumptions about yourself. Don’t go on believing lies that keep you from acting and moving forward in your life if you don’t have to. There is great freedom in believing the Truth about yourself.  

Beliefs are your own; no one can believe for you.

Some of us have a harder time believing than others, but that ability as well as our own set of beliefs is unique to each one of us. No one can believe something or bear its burden of responsibility for you. You alone must own what you say you believe. In order to believe something, you must identify it as true, at least for you. We have different ways of testing what we believe in, like fact-checking, counsel-seeking, or experiencing. But we all must participate in the act of believing. It takes action on our part to believe something with all that we are–heart, mind, and spirit. Belief is something that demands to be taken seriously; the power and sway of a belief in your life is too strong to do otherwise.

Without belief, we lose our humanity.

I settled on the fact that I could not accept life without meaning. There came a time when I couldn’t deny that meaning was present even while still feeling completely lost and identified way too closely with Ecclesiastes 1. Even though I didn’t know what it was at first, (and at times I still lose sight of it), I know life has meaning. That is because I have accepted the belief that meaning exists; I hold this to be true after careful consideration and examination. I experienced what life would be like without believing in meaning, and Truth wasn’t there. Belief is part of how we operate and make decisions in the world; it is fundamental to being human. Without belief, we lose not only the Truth but we lose our very humanity. 

Examining what you believe is not easy, it can be scary to challenge yourself because you can’t escape yourself once you do. You give yourself no place to rest from that challenge once you enter into it; you can only go through it. But belief in the Truth is worth the journey. It will be hard, and there will probably be days you feel like quitting, but there is amazing potential to engage for yourself with an experience that is uniquely and beautifully human. Belief is a powerful force, the most powerful one we have, as it holds the power to save our very souls. The act of believing has the power to allow us the hope of life itself (John 3:16). My prayer lately has been that of the father of the boy with the unclean spirit, who says to Jesus, “I believe; help my unbelief!” (Mark 9:24). Jesus says to him, “All things are possible to the one who believes” (Mark 9:23). 

“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” -Romans 10:9

Resources for further reading: Starting Point by Andy Stanley

What To Do When You Struggle with Faith

Here we are, the first blog post of Life with the King! I hope that here you will find something helpful for your own faith and truth-seeking journey, whether you’ve never thought much about faith before, had faith your whole life, or are somewhere in between. I’m excited to get started!

I don’t know about you, but my struggle with faith wasn’t pretty or quickly resolved with a conversation or two with a trusted friend.

While we all have doubts that come up from time to time, that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about a long, difficult, painful struggle with faith in God. A struggle that led to seeking out the answers to life’s big questions from cultures completely different from mine. A struggle that led to my identity as a believer being completely wiped out, and being faced with the choice to rebuild it on something else. A struggle that led to laying in bed as often as possible without getting questioned about it.

If that’s you, wow do I feel for you. I have been there, and it is not easy. When I was able to share with someone what I was going through, people told me not to worry about it and not to take it so seriously. That it was all going to be okay. These platitudes, while surely well intended, came across as unhelpful and dismissive. I want you to know that your pain is completely valid, I get it, and you are incredibly courageous for being willing to ask the big questions. To be willing to change to know the truth. That takes guts.

I wouldn’t wish the type of deep, prolonged pain I experienced from struggling with faith for anyone, but for some of us, it is a reality. I can say now that I’m thankful for it; as the wise saying goes, pain may in fact be our best teacher. Neither I nor anyone else can take the faith journey for you. Only you can press on in this. You can and you must; know that I believe you can do it! In my own journey so far (thankfully we never actually stop journey-ing!) I learned several things that were helpful to remember when the road got unbearably difficult. Without further ado:

1. You are not alone; avoid isolating.

Although it may feel incredibly lonely at times, you are not alone if you struggle with faith. Many people have gone through similar journeys and have come out on the other side. The people in your life that maybe don’t fully understand, they are still there for you and they care about you. Allow them to be around you, even if it’s hard. Don’t isolate yourself in all your pain. Let me repeat that, do not isolate yourself in your pain. Whether they understand us or not we all need other people around us, especially when we are down, to show us that life can still be lived and that joy can still be found. Let those who you trust and who love you in, as much as you possibly can.

2. No one has completely figured God out.

As much as knowing that God does or doesn’t exist would be helpful in moving on with your life, no one knows 100%. Neither science nor religion can prove either way. If your journey has led you onto this unending path, you can put down your binoculars now, there is no proof. That is the maddening yet beautiful mystery we are all faced with. That is where facts end and faith can begin.

3. Love is not a feeling, it’s a choice.

You’ve probably heard the phrases before: Love God Love Others, or, God is Love. When you’re in the depths of struggling with faith, you doubt God’s love. You doubt your ability to love and put walls around your heart to avoid feeling any additional pain. But one of the most liberating things I’ve learned is that it’s not about a feeling at all. Love is a choice you make. Love is a choice God makes. Each one of us has been gifted with the ability to choose. We can choose love, we can choose forgiveness, we can choose belief. And it doesn’t have to be based on a feeling. Feelings come and go, but the truth lasts. We can base our choices on the truth. And what we choose to believe drives our very lives.

4. Start from the Truth.

When you’re questioning everything, it can be very difficult to find solid truth to stand on. I think this is what made my journey so painful, that there was suddenly no rhyme or reason to my day-to-day decisions, other than I felt like making them. There was no solid reason I could point to anymore of why I should avoid being influenced by something, for an extreme example, Satanic music; my only reasoning was that it would or wouldn’t make me feel good. I could do anything I wanted, with no boundaries. Sure, I could start at the laws of morality, but let’s be real, there are some gray areas there. I no longer trusted the Bible because I had let other peoples’ opinions about it influence me (cue hearing a mockery of the story of Noah’s ark for about 10 solid minutes, and picking apart Adam and Eve, thus discounting the whole text as unreliable). I found a very important piece of truth after attending a philosophy roundtable discussion. I came away from our discussion that week on the philosophy of death feeling completely torn apart emotionally. Afterward, I kept playing one thing over and over in my head, something a woman shared with the group about telling her kids there was nothing beyond death,

“When they were old enough, I told them that we die, and when we do we become part of the earth.” This bothered me deeply for days.

Suddenly, and without warning me about it first, “There has to be more than this,” popped into my head. The best way I can describe it is that it bypassed my thought processes and was communicated straight into my heart. My nugget of truth. My spirit had been uncomfortable, unwilling, to accept the woman’s philosophy (which happened to be the group’s majority belief). No, there has to be some meaning to life and death. All this pain and all this joy and the billions of journeys that are happening in people’s hearts all over the globe, there is absolutely no way it’s all for nothing. I simply couldn’t accept otherwise. Perhaps this nugget helps you, perhaps you’ll discover your own. What is it that you just can’t get past? Start there.

5. Keep going.

Even though it’s hard, and it may be one of the hardest experiences you ever go through, always keep going. Keep learning about yourself, keep seeking out answers, and you will have a rich array of experience and wisdom to share with others. Avoid staying stuck in one spot, don’t give up on all the other areas of your life because of one thing you can’t get past. If you need to stop probing in one area of your life, start working in another until you’re ready to come back to it. Usually, they don’t all get resolved at once. This process takes time; stay patient with it and with yourself. Always keep growing, and treasure your gift to choose where you place your focus and attention. Never give your gift of choice up or let anyone make your decisions for you. You’ve got this.

I got to a point where my hope and my joy had died along with my faith and couldn’t be resurrected by my own effort. In my darkest moment, during what poets, religious scholars, and philosophers have called the “dark night of the soul,” I gave up the control that can so easily keep faith at bay and finally let go of the skepticism and the need to understand it all. Immediately, God’s love rushed into my soul, and I’ve never taken it for granted since. My faith was restored as a tiny mustard seed, but it was there. And it grew. My life changed. I changed. Having faith takes everything you have, what you once thought about yourself, the direction you had set and planned for your life, and the way you see the world. But it’s worth it. God is so worth it all.

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

Resources for further reading: The Reason for God by Timothy Keller; Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis